girlfriends

I once was the girl who always had guy best friend.  I had friends that were girls, but my best friends were always dudes.  I thought I preferred it that way.   I thought guys were easier.  I thought they were more trustworthy, more dependable and less likely to betray.

Many, many years ago, I met a group of girls at the restaurant we all worked at.   I quickly found out what I had been missing.

For 13 years, we have been through everything.  Love, death, tragedy, breakups, school, new jobs, babies.  Everything that could happen, has happened to one of us.  And no matter what, we are always there.

During one particularly rough patch in my life, I hadn't spoken to one friend in months.  But when I showed up in tears, she had a shoulder for me, no questions asked.  Another friend appeared on my doorstep shortly after, putting her life on hold to be there.

When my mother died, I never felt so much support.   From these original ladies and a few others.   I don't think I would have survived without them.

I think all women need friends like these.  A husband and family just aren't enough.   You need that escape, that time to be with women who truly understand you like no one else.  Who have seen you disgustingly drunk, with vomit in your hair, and do nothing but help you get your shit together.  Who will rent a u haul and be there to move you across state when needed.  Who will give you advice, but still love you when you don't follow it.

I am truly blessed to have these beautiful, strong,  wonderfully supportive women in my life.  They lift me up when I am falling
They bring wine when life is hard or when we need to celebrate.  They bring food when crisis hits my family.   They cry with me, laugh with me, and sometimes get fall down drunk with me.  They plant gardens and go with me to spread my mother's ashes.  They are always behind me, beside me, and in my heart.

I'm not even sure they know how much they mean to me, all the time, but especially in the past months.  In my world, these bitches are my sisters and I couldn't do it without them.